There are many people, especial our elderlies and those with a habit of nurturing strong opinion, like to make subjective comments on others. Many of the comments reflect their concern and love towards us. However, many of their utterance is also mixed with subjectivity and biased views. At times these comments (a.k.a. good advice) create more negative impact than good ones in terms of one's personal psychological burden. Sometimes I have to endure many such comments which I deem lack of wisdom, or based on superficial basis. At times I wonder why many people who can't see far and deep enough care to offer (and impose) opinion on others. I learn to cope and endure these 'kepo' comments. But deep in my mind, I am wishing for wise, penetrative and heart-ouching advice which are rare but precious.
22.8.17
5.3.17
On interpretation
We interpret so often that it becomes a natural habit akin to breathing. We hold very strongly to our own interpretation so much so that we never contemplate the possibility that our interpretation is inherently subjective and can potentially sway away from the truth. I am not saying all of our interpretation are bad or not reliable. I am just saying we have to give benefit of doubt to others when we interpret, with a clear awareness that we are all subjected to the inherent subjectivity. If we ourselves are not wary of this, it would be even harder to expect others do.
In many circumstances we can't control our own interpretation, so it is even harder to ask others to observe the same. I think the tendency to loss such an awareness is very normal, and it is repeatedly happening in our daily life. It is commonplace whereby things that we know is wrong is interpreted as right (or vice versa) due to subjective believing. So what can you do and what should you do? You just can't do anything. If there is nothing you can do, then do nothing. If you still really want to so something about it, keep reminding yourself and refreshing the awareness that you are witnessing the manifestation of our mundane minds. In the real world, many things just go the wrong way. This in a deeper sense a manifestation of ignorance of the minds. Many people can't see things rightly and can't self-correct, and there is no practical means to rectify the situation. This is a rather unsatisfactory state of matter which keep occurring. When you can embrace such an unsatisfactory nature of things, you grow to the next level of intellectuality.
In many circumstances we can't control our own interpretation, so it is even harder to ask others to observe the same. I think the tendency to loss such an awareness is very normal, and it is repeatedly happening in our daily life. It is commonplace whereby things that we know is wrong is interpreted as right (or vice versa) due to subjective believing. So what can you do and what should you do? You just can't do anything. If there is nothing you can do, then do nothing. If you still really want to so something about it, keep reminding yourself and refreshing the awareness that you are witnessing the manifestation of our mundane minds. In the real world, many things just go the wrong way. This in a deeper sense a manifestation of ignorance of the minds. Many people can't see things rightly and can't self-correct, and there is no practical means to rectify the situation. This is a rather unsatisfactory state of matter which keep occurring. When you can embrace such an unsatisfactory nature of things, you grow to the next level of intellectuality.
11.1.17
Reflections on priorities in life
One continuously progresses, or rather, evolves as she/he grows. Not only in terms of age but spiritual and intellectualness. The following summarises to a good approximation the current state of my own introspection. The following notes was taken by Cheng Siew as she summarises a round of conversation among a group of Dhamma friends in a pre CNY-gathering. Some ideas are her, and the rest are mine. In anyway, all items mentioned below are essentially agreeable irrespective of who mentioned it.
Prioritization: Focus on the importance; e.g. step up to move forward vs continue dwelling in the story / problem
Give benefits of doubt: Not to judge (judgement is based our past experience) as we may not be having right clarity to understand
Be Open: cultivate the skill of learning as we can't learn new things with our existing learning
Less interpretation as interpretation comes with our perspective
Use the guidelines of if any reduction in the three defilements (greed, hatted, delusion) to determine if to continue our endeavor, discontinue it if there is an increase in the defilements.
Living in the presence focuses on cultivating mental faculty to receive the "raw information" as it is and without clouding it with our interpretation and judgement. The motivation is to live happily with less or no defilements.
In the process of refinement, as we aware of the defilements arose (effect), investigate the reason (cause) and then cultivate the right thinking and habit to minimize/eliminate the re-occurrence.
Prioritization: Focus on the importance; e.g. step up to move forward vs continue dwelling in the story / problem
Give benefits of doubt: Not to judge (judgement is based our past experience) as we may not be having right clarity to understand
Be Open: cultivate the skill of learning as we can't learn new things with our existing learning
Less interpretation as interpretation comes with our perspective
Use the guidelines of if any reduction in the three defilements (greed, hatted, delusion) to determine if to continue our endeavor, discontinue it if there is an increase in the defilements.
Living in the presence focuses on cultivating mental faculty to receive the "raw information" as it is and without clouding it with our interpretation and judgement. The motivation is to live happily with less or no defilements.
In the process of refinement, as we aware of the defilements arose (effect), investigate the reason (cause) and then cultivate the right thinking and habit to minimize/eliminate the re-occurrence.
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